Latest News:  

English>>China Society

Lonely hearts forced to date on Valentine's Day


14:18, February 15, 2013

TAIYUAN - Valentine's Day is a particularly embarrassing time for men and women who are looking for love in China, where it's considered shameful to remain single after 30.

This year, the Western holiday falls on the fifth day of the Chinese Lunar New Year, in the middle of family gatherings and feasts that often focus on gossip, including who is getting married and who is going to have a baby.

Lonely hearts are then forced to the center of the stage. Well-meaning aunts and uncles work to arrange dates that promise to ruin the rest of the holiday.

"I am either on a date or on my way to the next date" -- some have described their holiday life as such on their microblogs.

"I was forced to go on two dates during the first four days of the holiday," said Cheng Xiaonian, a female office worker in Taiyuan, capital of north China's Shanxi Province. "I was not in the mood to meet anyone, but my mom called me a weirdo, saying I was immature, unsociable and too picky."

Cheng, the only child in her family, is 29, a borderline "old maid" as far as her mother is concerned.

"I know how people will look at me and my family if I remain single, and I know precisely how my mom feels," she said. "But I'm still a green hand at my current job and I'm under heavy pressure. I don't have the time or energy for dating."

Like most of her peers, Cheng said she believes her "Mr. Right" is waiting for her somewhere. "I will meet the right person at the right time. These forced dates will not work," she said.

Despite their reluctance, it's always difficult to turn down a warm-hearted aunt's invitation to a "private chat" at a restaurant or coffee shop, only to find a complete stranger of the opposite sex, often equally uneasy, sitting there and struggling to strike up a conversation.

【1】 【2】 【3】

We Recommend:

'Wedding' for two old men in Beijing

$16,000 splash to be washed emperor-style

So sleepy on way home in Spring Festival travel rush

Sweetest moment of 'mother-to-be'

Parents keep son alive with DIY ventilator

China's weekly story (2013.01.27-01.31)

Chinese New Year in country fair

A Taiwan student’s adventure in Beijing

Wedding planner: dealing with 'happiness' and 'love'

Email|Print|Comments(Editor:HuangBeibei、Li Zhenyu)

Related Reading

Leave your comment0 comments

  1. Name


Selections for you

  1. Chinese marine ships continue regular patrol

  2. China eyes closer cooperation with IFAD

  3. Binche Carnival kicks off in Belgium

  4. Heavy fog hits Jiangsu in E China

  5. Lantern show held to celebrate Spring Festival

  6. Luxury car sales in overdrive

  7. Florists prepare bouquets for Valentine's Day

  8. Tranquil moment as sun sets over Sanya skyline

  9. Business loves Valentine's Day

  10. Animated displays

Most Popular


  1. US to withdraw from Middle East?
  2. Ensure fairness during festival travel rush
  3. Is the wolf really gone?
  4. K-pop on Spring Festival gala stirs controversy
  5. Some media don't get the message: no bootlicking
  6. US playing strategic arms game
  7. Aiming at fairer realty market
  8. Dark business environment breeds dark deeds
  9. Israel-Palestine peace talks dominate Obama's visit
  10. Cowardly officials behind thuggish pawns

What’s happening in China

Young Spanish scientist has a career 'made in China'

  1. Five missing after Yangtze ferry sinking
  2. Prisoners' rights protected by information tech
  3. Beijing air pollution high despite fewer fireworks
  4. Holiday exposes generation gap
  5. Number of road travellers rises as returning begins