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Why can't Chinese girls marry foreigners?

(People's Daily Online)

08:19, October 23, 2012

Recently, overseas Chinese netizens have been discussing the phrase "foreign F" in a surge of agitation. What does the phrase mean? Basically it refers to a person who gets married with someone from a different ethnic group, including "foreign F males" and "foreign F females" of course. However, the latter are the majority. Therefore the phrase is generally used to describe Chinese girls who married a foreigner.

Among the many who argue online, most fiercely criticize the phenomenon and accuse that "foreign F females" are worshipers of foreign things; few hold a neutral standpoint. But one thing is certain – that most reviews are male.

There is a point of view that widely spreads in the online Chinese community: "it is hard to live as a Chinese person in the United States, and even harder as a Chinese man." It is meant to be a funny joke but reflects that many Chinese women do not want to choose a Chinese male.

From one thing, this is indeed a social problem which has something to do with the long-standing "uglification" of the ethnic Chinese men by the mainstream society. But from another perspective, this reflects a sort of unbalanced mentality of the males in the online Chinese community.

Reasonably speaking, there is no such principle that an ethnic Chinese woman must marry a Chinese man. Women have the right to choose their own partner, which is only related to love but has nothing to do with race or color. If some foreigners agree with Chinese culture and concepts and appreciate the excellent quality of Chinese women, then it is not a problem for both sides to be happy with each other.

The fact that Chinese men are not favored is largely caused by the distorted propaganda by the mainstream media. In their eyes, Chinese men are mostly thin and weak, while the white or black men are extremely strong. This situation reflects the racial discrimination in Western society, but fundamentally speaking, most Chinese men also need to look for reasons in themselves for such problem.

Now we are living in a pluralistic, multi-ethnic society atmosphere, it is necessary to break the innate concepts about marriage in the head and become more open. Since Chinese women can choose man from other races, why cannot Chinese men choose interracial girls?

Some netizens analyzed that one of the reasons causing the outflow of Chinese women is that most ethnic Chinese boys or Chinese students have a background of science and engineering studies and not so good economic conditions, and they were mostly dealing with machines during the school years, therefore have low EQ and do not understand girls. It is suggested that Chinese men should, at the same time of adapting to the society, not only stay at home or in the laboratory and complain, but go outside. After all, life is more than just those machines.

In recent years, Chinese males have made outstanding performance in many areas and enjoy a gradually rising status in the society. Associated with the beginning of these changes, what also needs to be changed should be their mentality.

Read the Chinese version: 以正常心态看待“外F”女


Source:People's Daily Overseas Edition , author: Zi Mo.

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PD User at 2012-11-0172.83.234.*
i love china!!l love china calture!!same day soon i will marry a china women!!wo shian shin tata shian shin woonly lichan ma in my heart life and spritlichan is the only one for eternotytrulysal fernandes
Reader at 2012-10-2349.125.111.*
That is why the weakness of the Chinese nation is due to the women. They have base values and do not understand the meaning of honor - of honoring oneself, honoring one"s family, honoring one"s society, and honoring one"s country.With such kind of selfish, self-centred inteest, women dishonor their menfolk, their family, their society and country. They can"t see beyond their nose. They sell themselves out to foreigners and make foreigners superior to their father, their brothers, their uncles, their grandfathers. They do not care about the damage they do. Foreigners regard Chinese women as trash in view of this preference behviour and consider Chinese women as no more than prostitutes .. to be used and then discarded.As I have said many times, we are our own worst enemies, and the source of all our societal problems, in my opinion, stems from the women in out society, especially the mthers. They are not fit to be mothers because they have wrong values which is duie to lack of intelligence which is also aggravated by lack of education and finally wisdom and understanding. Without these, they do not know or know only how to transmit wrong value systems to the children. Solve the mother problem in China and you solve the disease in Chinese society.In other countries, women get killed if they dishonor their family. Marrying a foreigner is one of them. And foreigners use your women as an extension against you, your country and your menfolk. And the bl**dy women are willing accomplices. Off with their heads, these traitors!
Gerard at 2012-10-2358.57.38.*
I am married to a Chinese women. She is my equal. First of all love knows no colour or race. I do not expect my wife to stay at home and be a housewife. She comes and goes as she pleases. I am not her boss. I am her husband. We live in her country as I respect the fact that she is very close to her family and it would be difficult for her family to come and visit her in my country. Unlike a Chinese man my parents did not buy an apartment for me so that I could marry her. We purchased the apartment together and owe our parents nothing but honor and respect. Unlike rich Chinese men and goverment officers who have side line girlfriends I do not commit adultry as I love my wife. I do not feel that I am entitled to any special treatment just becuase of the fact that I am a male. I do most of the house work. My wife"s Chinese girlfriends find this extremely attractive. Maybe Chinese men should stop considering themselves above everyone else. They have over 5000 years of history and need to start changing their ways. Change is as good as a holiday.
huoqiao at 2012-10-2375.72.239.*
Don"t worry, 14 years ago, my wife wanted to married me. Now, her sister is reluctant to marry anyone we suggested. As long as Chin (Zhongguo) is progressing and living standart is improving, there won"t be that many Chin girls wanting to marry a foreigner. Also, way back then, I asked if she would agreed to have me going to Zhongguo to live with her, she said no. I asked why? she said, I married you because I wanted to go to America. Now, she is groaning, too much stress, too much work, days in and days out and time is too short. Wanting to return to China. Now, Zhongguo government must, and in every afford try to promote Mei Zhongguo so that not that many people fall crazy to this Mei Guo. In reality, Zhongguo is starting to replace Mei Guo in terms of social life, materializes, and happinesses.
  

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