For many, marriage is proof of two persons' love and happiness. For Geng Le and Ah Nan, marriage is a lie to placate their parents. Geng, a 32-year-old gay man and Ah Nan, a 29-year-old lesbian, tied the knot after a few meetings. Both of them asked not to use their real names for this article.
Their parents brought them together, in a manner of speaking.
"Ah Nan and I came together solely because we both want to let our parents think their children live as others do," said Geng. "Graduated, found a job and got married. We want them to be happy."
Said Ah Nan, "I cannot tell my parents the truth. Even if they can understand us, how can all the relatives and other people understand?"
When marriage does not simply mean a relationship between a man and a woman, things can get complicated, very complicated, Geng told the Global Times.
Some 30 Chinese gay and lesbian activists staged a mock wedding photo session on Valentine's Day to canvas for acceptance of same-sex relationships and marriage. Photos: CFP
His mother-in-law asked him about the noodles he ate the day before and the filial son answered, "Oh yeah, it was nice, very nice indeed," on the phone. But he had never tasted the noodles or even seen them. He called up his wife immediately and found she was cooking noodles when her mother called that day.
"Ah Nan's mother must be thinking she was cooking for me!" Geng laughed. "But she only cooks for her girlfriend."
"I do not live with Ah Nan. She has got her own partner and they stay in another place."【1】 【2】 【3】 【4】 【5】